About 4 years ago I met the man of my dreams, and honestly, I wasn’t even looking for someone new. I was just having fun, following my passions, and speaking honestly and openly about what I wanted.
You want to know the most surprising thing about it though? There was absolutely no question in my mind that he was (is) the right relationship for me.
Now, typically I analyze things to death, so maybe it’s not surprising to you, but I have a tendency to overcomplicate almost everything in life. It’s often better if I just shut my mind off before I get too crazy or otherwise get myself into trouble.
Maybe that’s the secret! Fall so deeply into love that you are dumbstruck, and then you won’t have to worry about your mind messing it all up!
Well, I’m sure you realize that I did go through a series of hesitations, wondering if this would all work out. The point is, I kept on coming to the same conclusion. This person is right for me. No question about it.
Here’s the lesson
What I realized in the four years since is that when I continue to deepen my relationship with MYSELF, other people deepen their relationship with me. As I know myself, other people know ME. When I can stand straight up and shout to the rooftops MY truth, the universe will shout it right back at me.
Wanna know how I did it? Come to the first of our exciting series of events called Finding the ‘ONE’ at Temple I Am on March 31st to find out.
You could say that I kind of ‘woke up’ this year after my grandfather died. He had wisdom that I’m just beginning to understand. The truth is, that death changed me in ways that I couldn’t predict. My grandparents were very involved in raising us. In high school, I would often crash at their house rather than drive the extra 30 minutes home after football practice and piano lessons ate up most of my evening. They were on speed dial as my emergency response team, and one night I completely ditched them for my friends without notice, not re-surfacing until the next morning. Maybe my early gray hairs are karma for that.
Beginning to See
Some relationships in life touch you more deeply than you give them credit for, and it’s for this lesson that I’m most thankful upon the passing of my late grandfather. He mattered to me, and over the last 12 years or so I saw him only on the holidays…or so I thought. What I really saw is what I wanted to see—a relative, an old man, one my biggest fans in high school (that was so LONG ago). I was still mired in my own life and perspective.
Last month, I had the privilege to spend many days with my bedridden grandfather. We chatted about the weather and food, and we chatted about life and family. He said, “Stay close to each other, love one another, that’s the most important thing. Everything else will take care of itself, but you all, stay close.”
I really started to SEE my grandfather when he expressed his love for my grandmother. As she fed him or bathed him, sometimes they would sing together, remembering happier times, past times, times when things were different. Ironically, you could see the timelessness of their gaze on each other, like nothing else mattered, and…it didn’t. Each moment they got together, they cherished.
In each of our moments, we have a choice. The impact that we choose to have will reverberate out from that moment of creation. Your moment may seem insignificant, but those moments add up to a lifetime. So choose wisely in this moment, and you’ll build a lifetime of wisdom.